We get unconditional love from children, especially when they were still toddlers. When my firstborn son was a toddler, he had his way of reminding me of this unconditional love. Today, I was reminded of that again when I read my journal.
A snippet from my Journal
Several nights ago I got so angry with my Firstborn.
I forgot the reason why I got angry. But, I made him feel that anger and I turned my back on him when we were about to sleep. This is one drastic move to a boy used to being hugged while he goes to dreamland.
You see, we sleep together. Firstborn sleep in his Daddy’s arms while Secondborn sleeps on my arms. Most often, you’ll see Firstborn on top of his Daddy’s chest soundly sleeping. He would cry out for his Dad when he feels him gone, even when he is just going to the toilet. There should be words of comfort like “I’ll be back” or he would let out a cry “Who will hug me?” We lovingly tolerate this sleeping habit.
Good thing that hubby and I both believe in co-sleeping with our kids. We are more comfortable with it than putting them in their own beds in their own room. That time will come. But not yet. Not yet.
When we woke up the next day, Firsborn’s first words were “I love you, Mommy!”
When we slept again that night, his head was on my left arm while Secondborn’s head was on my right arm. That’s how we sleep when hubby is not with us. I would end up with cramped arms. But it’s a practice that I also could not let go yet.
Then Firstborn reminded me:
“Mommy, remember last night, you were angry with me? You did not hug me?”
“Yes, you made me angry, that’s why.”
“But you love me. So when you love me, you still need to hug me even when you are angry with me.”
I was out of words.
Family Month in Korea
May is a big month for the family here in Korea. Today, May 8 is Parents Day. Children’s Day happened last May 5. Back in the Philippines, and in other countries, we celebrate Mother’s Day and it will fall this Sunday. My journal is a perfect reminder of my motherhood and parenting journey. And of the lesson of unconditional love from my son.
Here is a video which make me best look back on my sons’ childhood.
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Aww, this one’s so nice, “But you love me. So when you love me, you still need to hug me even when you are angry with me.” Sometimes talaga when we are angry, we forget how they feel din.
oo… I would often feel so bad and guilty. i guess, it will be like that even when they’re big already.
Simple words and gestures from youngsters will really strike us through. Being a parent is challenging especially in balancing discipline and expression of love.
SOOOO MUCH FEELS!! I get angry with coco almost every night since the lockdown and i always turn his back on me, but i allow him to hug me since like your kids hindi din sya sanay na hindi ako katabi. ALTHOUGHT since March, super few times lang kami we sleep together, since he got his own bed, dun sila ng dada nya nagsisleep.
I am not yet a mother but the love I get from my nephew and niece is really irreplaceable. Everytime I leave them to go back to Jakarta, I cry a lot because I always miss their innocence and genuine affection.
Kids really say the darndest things talaga! But they speak the truth more often than not. It’s amazing how your son is capable of showing his love for you. I suspect it’s because he is a recipient of unconditional love from his parents.
This is a very touching post. As a mother, I feel your thoughts, we don’t know how w could truly express our love for our kids. There were times when my daughter wants my attention but I could not give it to her because I have to work. It’s really hard to balance sometimes but we know as a mother that we are doing our best to take care and give unconditional love in return.
My heart ached a little after reading what he said. Kids disobey but at the same time parents should show love even when they are angry, and that is sooo hard. I’m not a mom yet so I can’t really relate but once I do become one, I hope to be able to be like all you selfless and loving mothers out there. 🙂 Belated Happy mother’s day po!
This makes me remember our childhood days. Before Karlee was born, we were in a smaller house. I used to share the bed with my parents, and two brothers. I think it’s a great family bonding because we can say our prayers together before going to sleep.
Aaaww… kakatouch naman yung post mo. Hindi pa ko nanay, pero kung sa future marinig ko sa magiging anak ko ang nga katagang ito “But you love me. So when you love me, you still need to hug me even when you are angry with me.” malamang di rin ako makakapagsalita at baka umiyak lang ako.
Happy Mother’s Day to you!! Grabe pag bata noh, they really say what they feel or think without any hesitation. I’ll also be short of words din siguro if ever the time comes i have my own kid and they say that to me 😅
This is sooooo sweet, I’m gonna cry. You love your kids so much and they love you so much too. Wishing blessing for you and your fam. Happy Parents and Children’s day there!!
Done reading this blog po ms wendy. Nakaka touch naman po itong post nyo. Naalala ko tuloy noong maliit pa ako nakakamiss din ang bonding with parents noong mga kids pa tayo. Natouch po ako lalo dun sa “But you love me. So when you love me, you still need to hug me even when you are angry with me.”🥰
Unconditional love it is, tho I’m not yet a parent, and my parents can’t bear a toddler anymore. I wished that my Kuya will have one soon, so that we could be able to have a kid. And he’ll surely light up with such positivity our entire home.
Aaaww.. I feel you mommy. My firstborn is assessed with autism. Sometimes I got angry with him because he’s uncontrollable. When I turned my back on him one time, he pulled me back and hugged me. He is non-verbal. I’m so close to tears that time. Yes, our children give unconditional love.
Beautiful! Your child is blessed to have such a great mom like you 🙂 Such a sweet post!
thank you very much!
I was emotional reading this. I am a single mum who sometimes loses my cool when my kid is being.. a kid. Just the other night, I did not allow him to latch unto me (he is almost 4 and we are still breastfeeding); he was not listening to whatever I was telling him, and so I got angry. He slept on my arms while I cry myself to sleep. I was just so tired that day. The morning after, he woke me up with a kiss, greeting me good morning. He asked if I was still mad. I told him that he made me upset but that it’s ok already. He then said that I am the best mummy ever.
Sorry, I had to tell my story too, haha. I just find these little creatures so forgiving. If only we all could have the heart of the little ones, then this world will be so much better for all of us.
Thanks for sharing your story, you are a wonderful momma!
I feel that. I personally have a rule with my husband and especially my kids, that I do not go to sleep angry with them. Because I was once there, as a kid, with my own parents angry at me for days or weeks cause of something that I did. And I also make sure that I talk to them after I got mad with them cause you never know, a kid can actually remember all those little things.